Mom’s fix things.
I’m a mom so, I’m a fixer. I’ve been fixing things for over 30 years now.
At first it was straightforward.
- Scraped knee – bandaid.
- Squeaky door – WD-40.
- Fever – Tylenol
I’m not saying it was easy then, because it certainly wasn’t. Fussy babies, mountains of laundry, children who refused to toilet train, less-than-stellar report cards…you get the drift. It was overwhelming and I wondered if there would ever come a time when I wasn’t completely exhausted.
But eventually, life settled into a rhythm.
If it needed mending, painting, gluing, taping or a hug, I could handle it. Bam! Done.
Even if I couldn’t manage a fix on my own, I knew where to git ‘er done!
Call the principal. Make a doctor’s appointment. Bring it to the mechanic. Google it.
You know, that’s just how I roll! I’m a doer!
Lately, however, I’m at a loss. The problems are bigger and more complex and, more often than not, I don’t have a clue how to fix them or where to go to get them fixed.
There are times when there is simply nothing you can do. But, because I’m a doer, I made a list. These are the things to do when there’s really nothing you can do.
- Cry. When you are at the end of yourself and overwhelmed by the sheer overwhelmingness (my word) of it all, you may just need a deep, cleansing cry. Let it out. Those tears can be very therapeutic.
- Phone a friend. Once you have that friend on the phone, you may want to go back to number 1 for a while. Pick this friend wisely. You want the one that will say, “Mm hmm! I’m so sorry. Can I bring you cake?”
- Go for a walk. You’ve had your pity party. You’ve boo-hooed with a friend, now dry the tears and get moving. I promise, you will gain a different perspective with a change of scenery.
- Have a cup of coffee. Okay, maybe this should have been number 1. Consider it number 1a, before the cry and then repeat it again at number 4. Also, if there are baked goods or chocolate around, this would be a good time to indulge.
- Resist the urge to Google whatever your problem may be, especially if there’s a medical component. In time, this may be helpful but most of the time it’s just terrifying!
- Clean. This used to be my go-to for when I was angry or scared or frustrated. I think it’s age or laziness or maybe I just don’t care, but I don’t go here that often anymore. So, if cleaning isn’t your thing, go back to number 4 and add a slice of cake. Your friend should have dropped it off by now.
If you can’t fix it, quit trying. Sometimes your friends can’t help. Sometimes a change of scenery won’t do it. Sometimes there’s not enough coffee or cake or Google or friends or busyness to make it all right again. So, disregard all my earlier advice and do this.
Open the Word and wait. Lean your head back and rest in your Heavenly Father’s loving arms. Let Him speak healing and peace and courage into the depths of your soul. Don’t be in a hurry to move from this place. Healing takes time. Lists can wait.
“Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” Philippians 4:6-7 The Message