I have been looking forward to Friday all week. Last night was Girl’s Night Out. I haven’t had one in a while and this week, in particular, I needed a break from the stresses of daily life and time away with friends. It was so nice, reconnecting with old friends and getting to know new ones better.
This was a point of contention between Steve and I when we were first married, believe it or not. I would want to go out with a friend for a coffee or a night out, no let me rephrase that, I needed to go out with friends. Steve didn’t get it. Why did I need to go out with my friends when I had him? Wasn’t he enough? Isn’t that cute.
He just did not have that innate need to bond with other guys. When I would get home, after a coffee or dinner out, he would pepper me with questions, “What did you talk about?”, “Where did you go?”, “Did you talk about me?” I would just smile, and say, “We have plenty of other things to talk about,” as I gave him a kiss and a hug.
After some time, Steve discovered something that changed his outlook. I would leave the house irritable, stressed and uptight and return home just a bit more relaxed and ready to face life’s challenges. There was something about that time with friends that energized and encouraged me. Before long, he started saying, “Karen, why don’t you call someone to go out for a coffee? When was the last time you had a girl’s night out?” That Steve, he’s no dummy.
It’s not that I don’t like spending time with guys. I love my guys! I spent last weekend hanging out with six of them at the cabin. It was loud and chaotic and I enjoyed every minute of it.
But only us creatures with brains wired with estrogen can relate the same way to each other. When we get together, we generally don’t reach any great epiphanies or solve any monumental problems, we just know how to spend time sharing, laughing and hanging out. And yes, it generally involves something delicious and indulgent if you’re out for a meal with me!
So guys, if it’s been a while since your lady had a coffee with a friend, encourage her to go and tell her you will be thrilled to watch the kids! Girls, if it’s been way too long since you met a friend for a meal or a night out, do it soon. You will be better off for it. If you don’t know who to call, I am always ready for a cup of coffee (and a Pazookie!)